Why losses hurt most?

Why is it so hard for us to accept failure??? Personally i cant help but to think why failure hurts me the most... i often say that can i choose not to be affected by it or not?  and then when i read i book Titled "Sometimes we win..." by john maxwell, I have realized why sometimes losses can be one of the thing that hurt us the most. Because we have to admit that sometimes we are not in control of our life or the game it self... but for me being aware on how it will effects us will be one of the key to be able to have the right attitude in experiencing losses.





1. Losses Cause Us to be Emotionally Stuck“Anxiety and fear are debilitating emotions for the human heart. So are losses. They can weaken, imprison, paralyze, dishearten, and sicken us. To be successful, we need to find ways to get unstuck emotionally.”. 

2. Losses Cause Us to be Mentally Defeated
“Too often losing goes to our heads. It defeats us and we have trouble coming up with solutions to our challenges.”


3. Losses Create a Gap Between I Should and I Did
“However, losing can also create a cycle in our lives – a negative one. Losses, especially when they pile up, can lead to insecurity. When we are insecure, we doubt ourselves. It causes us to hesitate when making decisions. Even when we know what we should do, we are reluctant to do it.”


4. The First Loss Often Isn’t the Biggest Loss
“When we experience a loss, we have a choice. If we immediately respond to it the right way, the loss becomes smaller to us. However, if we respond the wrong way, or we fail to respond at all, that loss becomes greater.”


5. Losses Never Leave Us the Same
“Losses change us. But we must not allow them to control us.”


Each of these 5 reasons highlights why loss can be so difficult. It’s no secret that no one wants to lose, but knowing that we all will experience failure in some ways allows you to take risks. It’s important to remember, “you can choose to change, grow, and learn from your losses.”

Those are daily choices. Today, we’d love to hear about a time that you made the choice to learn from a loss!
“If you want something you have never had, you must do something you have never done."d